Cancer Feelings – Anger and Happiness – The relationship

Gees I have to apologize to all my readers. I haven’t been on in awhile and I left you with that last post that was about being angry.

The thing about feelings are if you wait long enough they change!  And it doesn’t take long.  Sure I get angry but then I take action.  I think that is the key in our life, that an emotion will prompt you on to take action.  A lot of people are afraid of anger.  I think I use to be really afraid of anger.  I was afraid to exhibit it, I was afraid to see it in others, and I was paralyzed after I exhibited it.  But as in anything, by ignoring it, makes the problem worse!  I am no longer afraid of it!  Bring it on, and let it move on!

And there is nothing wrong with getting angry.  But put it to good use.  Take some action.  We can only be responsible for our own actions and in actions.  Sometimes the best thing we can do is to reach out to others to talk through these feelings.

My cancer support group has proved invaluable.  Because partaking in group activities reminds us that we are not alone in this journey; that other people have traveled it and others will follow us through it.  So no matter whether you are a cancer survivor, a survivor of domestic violence or you have been in a bad car accident (we all have something) spending time with others is very important!!

I am indebted to my fellow survivors.  They carved a path, and left knowledge behind.  Whether it was an early stage survivor or my friend Ann Silberman who is Stage 4 Metster; they all leave a message.  The key is we all help each other.  Ann’s site, Breast Cancer? But Doctor I Hate Pink, has been an inspiration to me, given me links to information I needed to understand my situation.  It just goes to show, and remind us, that we all need each other!  Now we might not need each other all the time, but that is what life is about – it’s like chapters in a book.  I thank all those that helped me in this chapter in my life.

Now to my being angry.  I am also so very happy!  Yes, I am.   I work through my grief, because a lot of what this about is grief and loss.  And when I do that, I feel peace clear down in my soul.  I feel odd about talking about being happy now.  It seems weird to say that cancer was a gift.  But it was :)    It would be nice if we didn’t have to learn life’s lessons this way but its okay too.  I recently heard Matthew McConaughy speak about the end of life,  I would like to quote his article here, and share it with you because he had some interesting things to say about what a man regrets at the end of his life.  Enjoy:

Learn that your days are numbered Remember to spend your time doing the things that matter. Patterns/two regrets people have 2) I wish I hadn’t worked so hard This came from every single man that was dying. they pissed their children’s youth and female partners time. Number one: I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself not the life others expected of me. Culture expected of me. How many dreams have gone unfilled due to choices they had made. Health brings a freedom that very few realize until they no longer have it.

Give us the wisdom. Its biblical…Live as if your days are numbered because you will gain wisdom..

———- There is an elephant in the room.


Matthew McConaughy and the monster at the end of the story…”we all had this dream, we were gonna do this and we were with this person and then the room was dark sometimes and maybe there was something under the bed, and then in our lives there was the monster…in the end.”

He has an interesting way of putting it.  Meanwhile, it’s Saturday, I am feeling great!  It must be time to paint something again :)     Go forth and live!!   Thank you all for reading!!

About Bonnie Remmick

Four year cancer survivor trying to help my fellow journey mates get through the maze of treatment and the unending joy of recovery! If we just help each other along the way, the path is not so steep. Take my hand, my friend and come along the way! Its going to be a journey to Yourself.
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